One of my clients is a musician.
A very well known musician.
His face has adorned the cover of practically every popular magazine, his music is known worldwide and the band he's part of is one of the most successful in the world in terms of popularity, longevity and record sales.
He's definitely 'there' as far as realising his boyhood dreams of making it big in the music world, for sure.
Yesterday I was asking him about the success that he and his fellow band-mates had achieved and what, if anything, had been the turning point. That point at which they knew they were going to make it.
His answer was amazingly simple and straightforward.
He said, there hadn't been a 'turning point' as such, there was just a lot of putting one foot in front of the other and taking the steps necessary to reach their goal of stardom.
Sounds a bit vague right?
That's what I thought... at first.
But then I asked, "what were those steps?" and I got the following reply.
1. We knew we wanted to make a difference so we kept that uppermost in our minds at all times... especially when things got tough.
2. We knew we wanted to be more than just another band so we did things differently from the start rather than playing the copycat game. We practically created our own genre of music and that helped us stand out from the crowd.
3. We knew that we were entering perhaps the most competitive industry on the planet and so we'd have to commit to being the very best we could be every time we went onstage or into the recording studio.
4. We knew that the rewards would not be immediate but that if we committed to the other steps, they WOULD come.
5. We KNEW we would make it!
Amazing huh?
I mean, becoming a multi platinum selling band and known around the world has GOT to be tougher than many of the goals we've set for ourselves, right?
In fact, considering the attrition rates of rock-star wannabe's, making a measly hundred grand, writing a book, travelling the world or getting rid of 20lbs should be one of the simplest things in the world.
Especially if you were paying attention to the success lesson that my clients' answers provided!
You were paying attention weren't you?
If not, here it is again.
1. Make a difference to the lives of those you're 'performing' for.
Yes, your job, your relationships, your friendships and how you live your life are just as much a performance as playing an instrument or acting onstage. If you know your part well and you're truly committed to serving your 'audience' with the best possible service you're capable of, then you're halfway there!
2. Be unique right from the start.
Forget copycatting and trying to be like everyone else. People aren't interested in just another 'me-too' version of someone else, but they could be VERY interested in you... if you make yourself interesting.
Create a Unique Identity or 'brand' around yourself that differentiates you from everyone else and you're immediately in the spotlight.
3. Commit to being the best that you can be.
Gain the knowledge, skills and abilities to become a true professional in your field. Commit to excellence in all things that you do and ensure that your excellence shines through clear enough that you stand out from others. (Become outstanding!)
4. Be persistent in your actions.
Take consistent and persistent action toward achieving your goals. Even the tiniest step is still a step that will progress you in the direction of your dreams of success. Thinking about what you could do changes nothing.
Do!
5. Have faith and belief in yourself and your dreams of success.
It's been said that faith is the belief in something you cannot prove, yet it has a funny way of delivering proof if you believe for long enough.
Don't just wish, hope and dream of success. KNOW that it's on its way!
If this formula can work to create fame, fortune and world-wide recognition for a musician, just think what it'll do for YOUR life!
Truth, Joy and Love
Dax Moy
www.themagichundred.ning.com
P.S - Everyone has a song inside them. That 'thing' they were put here to do.
Finding the song and singing it with all your might is the true key to lasting success.
What's YOUR song?
P.P.S - The MAGIC Hundred program has helped thousands of people to find their song in unique and inspiring ways that add power, possibility and promise to their lives. If you're ready to find YOUR song then check out the program at www.themagichundred.com today.
Wednesday, 30 April 2008
Monday, 28 April 2008
Do You REALLY Deserve Success?
Whenever I start coaching a new client I always ask that question.
And the answer is pretty much always "Of course! EVERYONE deserves success!"
Interesting.
Even more interesting is when I ask 'Do you know what 'deserve' actually means?'
It's at this point that people start to 'um' and 'aah' and guess at the meaning of the word.
It's clear that most people have no idea about what 'deserve' actually means and so, that being the case, I can't help but wonder how they KNOW that they deserve success. After all, if you don't know the definition of a word, how can you know if it applies to you?
Let me put you out of your misery.
DESERVE comes from the latin word roots 'De' meaning 'of' or 'from' and 'servir' meaning 'service'.
So DESERVE literally means 'from service'.
That changes things a bit doesn't it?
It takes deserving from being a subjective feeling about what you should be getting to an objective assessment about what you're giving.
Not getting what you want from from your business at the moment? Give more service and it'll come.
Not getting what you want from your relationships? Give more service there too.
Not getting enough from life in general?... you know what to do!
Looking at what you're getting from life from the perspective of the service you're giving to others changes everything.
EVERYTHING!
If you don't feel like you're getting what you deserve then you're simply not giving enough service to others.
No if's, no but's.
This is an immutable law of success.
Want more?
Give more.
Period!
Don't think "What's the least I can do here to get a result?" Think, "What's the BEST I can give?"
Better attention to detail in your work?
Better telephone manner?
Better 'quality time' with those you care about?
Better commitment to making a positive imapct and leaving your mark on the world?
Better commitment to making more of each day you're given?
Yes please!
Give better service and then, when you think you can't give any more, find another way to 'squeeze more in'.
To your deserved success!
Dax Moy
Join The MAGIC Hundred Community TODAY at
www.themagichundred.ning.com... It's Free!
P.S - What one thing could you do RIGHT NOW to increase the service you're giving to even one individual? Identify it and do it and by definition you'll deserve more than you currently have... and you'll start to attract it to you too!
And the answer is pretty much always "Of course! EVERYONE deserves success!"
Interesting.
Even more interesting is when I ask 'Do you know what 'deserve' actually means?'
It's at this point that people start to 'um' and 'aah' and guess at the meaning of the word.
It's clear that most people have no idea about what 'deserve' actually means and so, that being the case, I can't help but wonder how they KNOW that they deserve success. After all, if you don't know the definition of a word, how can you know if it applies to you?
Let me put you out of your misery.
DESERVE comes from the latin word roots 'De' meaning 'of' or 'from' and 'servir' meaning 'service'.
So DESERVE literally means 'from service'.
That changes things a bit doesn't it?
It takes deserving from being a subjective feeling about what you should be getting to an objective assessment about what you're giving.
Not getting what you want from from your business at the moment? Give more service and it'll come.
Not getting what you want from your relationships? Give more service there too.
Not getting enough from life in general?... you know what to do!
Looking at what you're getting from life from the perspective of the service you're giving to others changes everything.
EVERYTHING!
If you don't feel like you're getting what you deserve then you're simply not giving enough service to others.
No if's, no but's.
This is an immutable law of success.
Want more?
Give more.
Period!
Don't think "What's the least I can do here to get a result?" Think, "What's the BEST I can give?"
Better attention to detail in your work?
Better telephone manner?
Better 'quality time' with those you care about?
Better commitment to making a positive imapct and leaving your mark on the world?
Better commitment to making more of each day you're given?
Yes please!
Give better service and then, when you think you can't give any more, find another way to 'squeeze more in'.
To your deserved success!
Dax Moy
Join The MAGIC Hundred Community TODAY at
www.themagichundred.ning.com... It's Free!
P.S - What one thing could you do RIGHT NOW to increase the service you're giving to even one individual? Identify it and do it and by definition you'll deserve more than you currently have... and you'll start to attract it to you too!
Thursday, 24 April 2008
Finish Every Day....
I just came across an old poem from Ralph Waldo Emerson that really struck a chord with me today.
You see, I've just come back from vacation in Thailand to lots and lots of emails from my readers and from the members of the Magic Hundred Community telling me that they feel like they often let themselves down.
That they don't always achieve the goals they set for themselves.
That they made 'silly mistakes' that they should have known better than to fall for.
Well, you know what?
EVERYONE feels this way from time to time.
EVERYONE has days when they haven't accomplished what they set out to accomplish.
EVERYONE messes up.
EVERYONE.
But how we handle these days determines what they mean to our 'big picure' goals in life.
The unsuccessful person and the successful one handle them VERY differently.
The unsuccessful person dwells on the shoulda, woulda, coulda...
The unsuccessful person blames themself, punishes themself and brands themself a fool.
The unsuccessful person makes the experience a negative one.
But those destined for success do things very differently.
The successful people don't dwell on things, they learn and move on.
The successful people don't berate themselves, punish themselves or lay blame. They take responsibility but not blame.
The successful people know that shoulda, coulda woulda is in the past and unchangeable; they focus on 'next time I will...' and put their energies to the present and the future.
The successful people make the experience positive by labelling it 'learning'.
See, it's not difficult to go from failure to success is it?
Just change what your experiences mean to you... and EVERYTHING changes!
Read Emerson's poem below...
Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities
no doubt have crept in;
forget them as soon as you can.
Tomorrow is a new day;
begin it well and serenely
and with too high a spirit
to be cumbered with
your old nonsense.
This day is all that is
good and fair.
It is too dear,
with its hopes and invitations,
to waste a moment on yesterdays
Dax Moy
www.themagichundred.com
Join hundreds of other successful people over at the FREE Magic Hundred Community www.themagichundred.ning.com
You see, I've just come back from vacation in Thailand to lots and lots of emails from my readers and from the members of the Magic Hundred Community telling me that they feel like they often let themselves down.
That they don't always achieve the goals they set for themselves.
That they made 'silly mistakes' that they should have known better than to fall for.
Well, you know what?
EVERYONE feels this way from time to time.
EVERYONE has days when they haven't accomplished what they set out to accomplish.
EVERYONE messes up.
EVERYONE.
But how we handle these days determines what they mean to our 'big picure' goals in life.
The unsuccessful person and the successful one handle them VERY differently.
The unsuccessful person dwells on the shoulda, woulda, coulda...
The unsuccessful person blames themself, punishes themself and brands themself a fool.
The unsuccessful person makes the experience a negative one.
But those destined for success do things very differently.
The successful people don't dwell on things, they learn and move on.
The successful people don't berate themselves, punish themselves or lay blame. They take responsibility but not blame.
The successful people know that shoulda, coulda woulda is in the past and unchangeable; they focus on 'next time I will...' and put their energies to the present and the future.
The successful people make the experience positive by labelling it 'learning'.
See, it's not difficult to go from failure to success is it?
Just change what your experiences mean to you... and EVERYTHING changes!
Read Emerson's poem below...
Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities
no doubt have crept in;
forget them as soon as you can.
Tomorrow is a new day;
begin it well and serenely
and with too high a spirit
to be cumbered with
your old nonsense.
This day is all that is
good and fair.
It is too dear,
with its hopes and invitations,
to waste a moment on yesterdays
Dax Moy
www.themagichundred.com
Join hundreds of other successful people over at the FREE Magic Hundred Community www.themagichundred.ning.com
Wednesday, 2 April 2008
What are You Choosing?
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to say you’ll do something yet how difficult it can be to actually follow through with it?
For instance have you ever found yourself saying that you’d love to lose weight or get fit or change your dietary habits and yet almost immediately you drop back into your old patterns of behavior again?
It’s frustrating isn’t it?
I think that most of us can relate to the frustration of desiring certain outcomes in our lives and yet failing to achieve them, I mean, who hasn’t felt the disappointment of failure when circumstances conspire against us and knock us off track?
One of the main reasons that many people fail to achieve the things that they say are important to them is that they feel unworthy of their attainment. As strange as this may seem and in spite of the fact that most people would deny self-sabotage on their part, nevertheless it remains true that most, if not all failures are self-inflicted ‘wounds’.
If you’re a person that has built a belief system that puts the problem ‘out there’ then you’ll probably find yourself strongly disagreeing with the last paragraph. After all, if it wasn’t because of work, money, time, the kids, your hormones or [insert excuse here] then you’d have the figure you always wanted and the life you’ve always dreamed for yourself wouldn’t you? Or would you?
It’s really easy to absolve ourselves of the responsibility for our lives and blame external circumstances for our failings and yet when it all boils down there really is no question that it is us and us alone that bear the responsibility for creating and owning the lives and bodies that we desire.
Maybe you think it’s work, money, time or something else keeping you from achieving what you’ve always wanted to attain, yet in reality it is something entirely different that holds the key to your successes or failures in reaching your goals.
Our view of ourselves and how we interact with the world around us is merely a result of the programming that we have received all of our lives. Whether we believe that we are good, bad or mediocre at any task that confronts us is a direct result of this programming and results in the most powerful of all forces available to us; our self concept.
The self-concept has been described as ‘The Master Programme’ of all human behaviour, and rightly so. So powerful is this aspect of our mental programming that the very way that we see the world, ourselves and the actions of others is quite literally filtered through its three-tiered filtration system.
The first tier, the self-ideal, refers to the standards that we have set for ourselves. We all have some idea about how we should look, how much we should weigh, how we should walk, talk, act and behave yet how many of us can state clearly what those ideals are?
Lack of specific focus and clarity in defining who we want to be lies at the heart of failure to achieve happiness with ourselves. You could liken it to setting out on a journey without having a destination, how would you ever know if you’ve arrived? By what standard would you judge your progress?
Those who are positive about their appearance and abilities in life have very definite ideals that they estimate their progress by. If they’re behind schedule they simply put in more work until they’re back on track.
What’s your self-ideal? If you don’t know then it’s time to think about it…Now!
• What does the ideal you look like?
• What does the ideal you weigh?
• How does the ideal you behave?
• How does the ideal you communicate?
• Who does the ideal you associate with?
• What does the ideal you think about?
Fill in as many blanks as you can. Create the best definition of your ideal you as you can. Then and only then will you ever get close to attaining it.
The second tier of your self-concept is known as your self-image. This is how you actually see yourself right now. If you see yourself as fat, unfit, ugly or in any other negative way then you will filter your life in order to show you evidence of what you believe. Every time you see yourself in the mirror you will see only these negative aspects of yourself.
Yet, despite the often vicious and unforgiving aspects of our inner-critic, it’s a relatively simple process to counteract its negativity. Just taking time out to logically question the validity of the criticisms offered often leads to an improved self-image.
For example;
• Has anyone ever complimented you on your appearance or ability?
• Are there areas of your life where your knowledge, skills and abilities are superior to those around you?
For most of us these questions, when answered honestly, will produce an affirmative response that can be used to build a foundation for other positive self-images. After all, if we’re positive and capable in only one area of our lives then we have a model of success to copy from into other aspects of our lives. All we have to do is figure out what makes us good in that area.
The answer will always include BELIEF.
The Third tier of our self-concept is self-esteem. This is how we feel about ourselves. How we estimate our value, if you will.
If you have a low self-esteem you will see yourself as being of both low intrinsic and extrinsic value to yourself and those around you. You will usually have a negative mindset where the ‘out there’ world is both better than you and conspiring against you at the same time. In short, you’ll blame your lack of success in your life, your diet and your fitness regime as being the result of others and ‘circumstances beyond your control’. After all, it’s not your fault that you don’t have enough money, time or energy to keep fit and stick to your diet is it? You’re trying your best aren’t you?
Yet honestly, do you really need lots of time or money to get fit, lose weight and develop the body and life that you’ve always wanted? If you valued yourself, you’d find a way even without these resources. Others have and so could you if you really wanted to.
Forget the justifications and rationalisations that you normally use to shift the responsibility that you have for your own life. They’re all nothing but excuses. All of them. Within you lies an unlimited source of power than can literally transform your appearance, abilities and very life if you only choose to tap into it.
The key is responsibility. The ability to choose the appropriate response to whatever life offers up to you. This starts within. You need to choose it. It doesn’t just happen.
What are you choosing for your life right now? Success and happiness or failure and desperation?
Choose well!
Dax Moy
www.themagichundred.ning.com
For instance have you ever found yourself saying that you’d love to lose weight or get fit or change your dietary habits and yet almost immediately you drop back into your old patterns of behavior again?
It’s frustrating isn’t it?
I think that most of us can relate to the frustration of desiring certain outcomes in our lives and yet failing to achieve them, I mean, who hasn’t felt the disappointment of failure when circumstances conspire against us and knock us off track?
One of the main reasons that many people fail to achieve the things that they say are important to them is that they feel unworthy of their attainment. As strange as this may seem and in spite of the fact that most people would deny self-sabotage on their part, nevertheless it remains true that most, if not all failures are self-inflicted ‘wounds’.
If you’re a person that has built a belief system that puts the problem ‘out there’ then you’ll probably find yourself strongly disagreeing with the last paragraph. After all, if it wasn’t because of work, money, time, the kids, your hormones or [insert excuse here] then you’d have the figure you always wanted and the life you’ve always dreamed for yourself wouldn’t you? Or would you?
It’s really easy to absolve ourselves of the responsibility for our lives and blame external circumstances for our failings and yet when it all boils down there really is no question that it is us and us alone that bear the responsibility for creating and owning the lives and bodies that we desire.
Maybe you think it’s work, money, time or something else keeping you from achieving what you’ve always wanted to attain, yet in reality it is something entirely different that holds the key to your successes or failures in reaching your goals.
Our view of ourselves and how we interact with the world around us is merely a result of the programming that we have received all of our lives. Whether we believe that we are good, bad or mediocre at any task that confronts us is a direct result of this programming and results in the most powerful of all forces available to us; our self concept.
The self-concept has been described as ‘The Master Programme’ of all human behaviour, and rightly so. So powerful is this aspect of our mental programming that the very way that we see the world, ourselves and the actions of others is quite literally filtered through its three-tiered filtration system.
The first tier, the self-ideal, refers to the standards that we have set for ourselves. We all have some idea about how we should look, how much we should weigh, how we should walk, talk, act and behave yet how many of us can state clearly what those ideals are?
Lack of specific focus and clarity in defining who we want to be lies at the heart of failure to achieve happiness with ourselves. You could liken it to setting out on a journey without having a destination, how would you ever know if you’ve arrived? By what standard would you judge your progress?
Those who are positive about their appearance and abilities in life have very definite ideals that they estimate their progress by. If they’re behind schedule they simply put in more work until they’re back on track.
What’s your self-ideal? If you don’t know then it’s time to think about it…Now!
• What does the ideal you look like?
• What does the ideal you weigh?
• How does the ideal you behave?
• How does the ideal you communicate?
• Who does the ideal you associate with?
• What does the ideal you think about?
Fill in as many blanks as you can. Create the best definition of your ideal you as you can. Then and only then will you ever get close to attaining it.
The second tier of your self-concept is known as your self-image. This is how you actually see yourself right now. If you see yourself as fat, unfit, ugly or in any other negative way then you will filter your life in order to show you evidence of what you believe. Every time you see yourself in the mirror you will see only these negative aspects of yourself.
Yet, despite the often vicious and unforgiving aspects of our inner-critic, it’s a relatively simple process to counteract its negativity. Just taking time out to logically question the validity of the criticisms offered often leads to an improved self-image.
For example;
• Has anyone ever complimented you on your appearance or ability?
• Are there areas of your life where your knowledge, skills and abilities are superior to those around you?
For most of us these questions, when answered honestly, will produce an affirmative response that can be used to build a foundation for other positive self-images. After all, if we’re positive and capable in only one area of our lives then we have a model of success to copy from into other aspects of our lives. All we have to do is figure out what makes us good in that area.
The answer will always include BELIEF.
The Third tier of our self-concept is self-esteem. This is how we feel about ourselves. How we estimate our value, if you will.
If you have a low self-esteem you will see yourself as being of both low intrinsic and extrinsic value to yourself and those around you. You will usually have a negative mindset where the ‘out there’ world is both better than you and conspiring against you at the same time. In short, you’ll blame your lack of success in your life, your diet and your fitness regime as being the result of others and ‘circumstances beyond your control’. After all, it’s not your fault that you don’t have enough money, time or energy to keep fit and stick to your diet is it? You’re trying your best aren’t you?
Yet honestly, do you really need lots of time or money to get fit, lose weight and develop the body and life that you’ve always wanted? If you valued yourself, you’d find a way even without these resources. Others have and so could you if you really wanted to.
Forget the justifications and rationalisations that you normally use to shift the responsibility that you have for your own life. They’re all nothing but excuses. All of them. Within you lies an unlimited source of power than can literally transform your appearance, abilities and very life if you only choose to tap into it.
The key is responsibility. The ability to choose the appropriate response to whatever life offers up to you. This starts within. You need to choose it. It doesn’t just happen.
What are you choosing for your life right now? Success and happiness or failure and desperation?
Choose well!
Dax Moy
www.themagichundred.ning.com
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