Why The Law Of Attraction Doesn't Work Part 2 - Positive Thinking

Yesterday's post about why the law of attraction doesn't work seems to have gotten quite a few people thinking.

Granted, there are only 4 comments on the blog (shame because there were same great posts to me personally) but there were over 200 emails received as a result of the posting so clearly, the subject is getting people really thinking.

What amazed me most is that I expected a lot more 'argument' in support of the popular view of the law of attraction yet I actually received far, far more mail telling me I'd helped people understand how it works and, interestingly, to feel less guilty or like a failure (their words) when they couldn't manifest what the law of attraction had been promising them.

What they DID ask, however, was if the law of attraction had a fatal flaw in it, did that hold true for the other success 'laws'?

Good question, let's find out shall we?

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Part Two
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I've given over 80 talks about mindset and goal achievement in the last 12 months to groups ranging from 20 to 2000 coming from all walks of life and practically every nation on the planet.

Whenever I begin one of my talks I always lay out the three 'big myths' about achieving your goals and why falling for them can cost you not only your goals but your passion and your happiness too.

Yesterday I covered myths 1 and 2 so today I wanted to cover the myth of positive thinking as I believe that this is probably the most pervasive and negatively impactful myth around achievement and success that most people fall for.

Now, don't get me wrong; I'm a big positive thinker myself focusing upon the possible rather than the impossible, on the can rather than the can't and on the power, possibility and promise of a situation rather than the drain, strain and lack of gain that most people seem to focus on.

But that doesn't mean that I believe positive thinking creates positive results in and of itself.

You see, depite what most people think, positive thinking has very little power to create the end-result you're most looking for whether that's earning more money, getting a better job or living the lifestyle of your dreams. Or anything else for that matter.

Now, if you've read around success literature very much then you'll probably disagree with me on this. I don't blame you, this is how we've been trained to think. This is what we've been told is true by practically every success coach and goal guru for the last 150 years.

But lets think on this a little...

Imagine you're sitting on the road in the middle of the highway.

You've a massive smile on your face and you're thinking happy, positive thoughts as the traffic whizzes by you at 70 miles an hour. You feel pretty good!

You're confident and positive that no harm will befall you.

Question: How long do you think your positive thinking will keep you from harms way?

Another example from Tony Robbins own collection of thoughts on the subject....

You walk out in to your garden and smile and say over and over "There's no weeds, there's no weeds, there's no weeds"

You follow this little ritual on a daily basis for six months or even a year, maintaining a positive attitude to your garden.

What do you think will happen?

Weeds right?

So look, positive thinking isn't the be all and end all of getting what you want.

Yes, it's an important part (after all, negativity certainly doesn't help ANYTHING) but positivity by itself only creates what I call 'Happy Fool Syndrome' where you maintain a smile despite whatever else is going on in your life. Sure, it's a better approach than going through life with a frown but it definitely won't guarantee your success in anything.

You see, positivity is only valuable to the degree that it gets you to take positive ACTION.

If you maintain a smile but don't DO the things that are PROVEN to create success then success simply won't come. It can't!

Only action changes anything, positive thinking doesn't.

So here's the test.

Stop judging your probability for success based upon how positive you're thinking, start judging it only on the actions you took toward making the goal happen; no matter how small.

Eating right and drinking right are far more likely to give you the body and the health you desire than thinking positive about your health alone.

Studying for a new skillset, starting your own business or getting a promotion at work are more likely to help you get the big house on the hill than just thinking positive about your lifestyle.

Thinking positively, on the other hand changes nothing unless it gets you to take action, action, action.

By all means, maintain a sunny, cheery disposition and a 'can do' attitude to life. I'm not knocking it, but make EVERY day a day where you took action on that positivity and things will change more than you'd ever believe.

Truth, joy and love

Dax Moy
www.themagichundred.com

P.S - If you're still not convinced about what I'm saying here, try this experiment.

Trial 1 -

1. Get a stopwatch and press start.
2. Think about making a cup of tea or coffee.
3. Get your mind to the place where you REALLY want that drink.
4. Think positively about getting your coffee.
5. Wait for the coffee to come and keep the timer running.

Trial 2 -
1. Get a stopwatch and press start.
2. Think about making a cup of tea or coffee.
3. Turn on the kettle and prepare the cups with coffee.
4. When kettle boils, pour water into cup.
5. Drink first sip then hit Stop on stopwatch.

Which was faster?

Action wins, right!

Look, think positive all you want, I highly recommend it, but measure the effectiveness of that positivity only by what you DO as a result of it,

Why The Law Of Attraction Doesn't Work Part 1

It's true you know, despite what you've heard, despite what you've
read, despite what all the success guru's have told you, the law of
attraction doesn't work.

I know, I know, it's hard to take in isn't it?

After all, like many people you've probably been pinning all your
hopes on 'attracting' success and happiness and wealth into your
life by thinking positive thoughts, by focusing on what you want
from life and by 'intentioning' the life you want for yourself.

If you're a true believer in the 'Law' of Attraction you've
probably also been practicing gratitude, telling yourself that
'thoughts become things' and reminding yourself as often as you can
that you 'become what you think about'.

In short, you've been doing everything you're 'supposed' to do to
activate the law of attraction but, well, where has it got you?

If you're healthier, wealthier, wiser and happier as a result then
congratulations. You probably don't need to read on any further.
You've obviously found a way to make the law work in your life.

However, if you're like the bulk of people who follow the law of
attraction philosophies and yet are still struggling to find the
happiness, contentment and success you're seeking then read on
because I'm about to reveal the REAL 'secret' to the law of
attraction and show you how you can apply it in your life to
achieve dramatic, often immediate results.

But before I do, let me tell you what the Law of Attraction is NOT,
that way you'll stop wasting your time and energies on things that don't
produce results in your life.

The Law of Attraction is NOT:

You become what you think about.

I know, I know, I'm going against what practically every motivational
and self help guru has been telling us for as long as we can remember.

In fact, I myself believed this until recently and often taught this principle
to anybody and everybody who would listen. But I was wrong.

You DON'T become what you think about at all. If you did then most
teenage boys would turn into pretty young girls!

A silly comparison I know, but no less silly than the idea that we really become
what we think about.

There are many, many things we think about every day and some that we feel strongly and emotionally attached to but we don't become that thing.

What about 'Thoughts become things'? Right or wrong?

Well, in the truest physical and even metaphysical sense, thoughts are made of energy and energy is a 'thing' so I guess it's right, but that's not what most success gurus are talking about. They're telling us that by shaping a thought we can manifest that object into the real world and truly make the thought a thing.

Certainly, true of many things. We have ideas and, once we take action on them they 'manifest' in the sense that we build or create them either with our own hands or in factories.

BUT...

Not always.

In fact, not even often.

We have thousands of thoughts a day but they don't all turn into something in the way that Law of Attraction supporters tell us they will.

Why?

Because, what you think about is only a tiny, tiny portion of attraction.

Thoughts DON'T become things.

Thoughts, if thought often enough and with enough intensity, tend to become feelings... NOT things.

Feelings, if felt often enough and with enough intensity, tend to become emotions... NOT things.

Emotions, if felt often enough and with enough intensity, tend to drive us to take action. (E- Motion!)

And action, no matter how small, if taken consistently, allows you to BE, DO and HAVE.... Things!

It's no surprise that the law of attraction contains the word ACTION. Nor is it a surprising that the word satisfaction contains the word ACTION either (In fact, satisfaction literally means 'enough action')

The real power behind the 'secret' law of attraction is simply getting yourself to think the thoughts and feel the feelings that make you want to take action. You do this by following your dreams and pursuing the goals that you REALLY want to happen rather than those that others tell you are realistic.

In other words, you get them by getting your butt up off the couch and DOING SOMETHING about them rather than thinking about them. Not what most people want to hear, I know, but true nonetheless.

Tomorrow I'll tell you about another success fallacy and how to stop it from holding you back from your dreams but in the meantime I hope you'll do 2 things.

First, be sure to leave me a comment about this post. I'm sure that many of you have a bunch to say about it and I'd genuinely love to hear from you.

Second, write down, think about and then take action on just 1 goal and write it down here in the blog. Just by doing so you move that tiny bit closer to making it real.

Truth, joy and love

Dax Moy
www.themagichundred.com

P.S - Before you think I'm a 'doubter' or cynic, let me tell you, I'm studying a masters degree in metaphysics and absolutely love the subjects I'm studying as well as the hundreds of books I've already read on the subject. I just believe that attracting success into your life is about more than positive thinking.If you think so too then you might want to check out www.themagichundred.com and find out how to go from goal SETTING to goal GETTING faster than any positive thinking program ever will.

Amazing Video From Conversations With God

A few days ago I told you about one of my favourite books, Conversations With God and how it's an amazing goal achievement and life success program in and of itself and that it has nothing to do with religion and everything to do with becoming happy and... complete.

Well, many of you wrote me to tell me you've bought the book and are already falling in love with it but for those who're still unsure, check out this video.

Personally, I love the message. I'd love to hear what you think!

CLICK HERE: To Watch it (We deactivated it from the site as it plays automatically)

Truth, Joy and Love

Dax Moy
www.themagichundred.com

From Rocky Beginnings... The Birth and Re-birth Of The MAGIC Hundred

My second edition of The MAGIC Hundred is releasing on 20th September (my 38th Birthday) so I thought I'd share a little of the new material I've added.

It's a bit different...

Like most of the authors of ‘success systems’ and goal setting programs, I didn’t just happen upon the principles that I now call The MAGIC Hundred. I found them partly through extensive searching and researching and partly through trial and error and, truth be told, largely by luck.

Let me set the story for you….

I grew up on several of Central London’s housing estates that had been built and reserved for the poorest of London’s residents and where practically every family was either legitimately on welfare due to genuine financial hardship, or else conning the welfare system by making claims whilst working for cash and avoiding taxes.

The areas I lived in were high in poverty, high in crime, high in violence and high in alcohol abuse and low in just about anything that could even remotely come close to the kind of life that anyone would ever call satisfying, let alone successful.

And that was true of my home too.

My mother genuinely loved her three sons, of which I was the oldest, and tried her hardest to make sure that there was always food on the table and that we were always clean, well dressed and well cared for but struggled against the fact money was scarce and that what little there was, was often taken for booze by my alcoholic stepfather who would disappear for days at a time on drink binges leaving us with cornflakes and little else and return, more often than not, in violent rages where he would beat my mother, us kids or both.

So we spent a lot of our free time playing outside in the streets so that we could make believe and pretend that what was happening at home wasn’t and that life was better than it really was.

My brother Kaz and I would often resort to stealing milk and bread off of other people’s doorsteps on the way to school and call it breakfast and then line up for seconds of our free school lunches to make sure we got enough to eat as well as resorting to the occasional shoplifting whenever the opportunity to grab a chocolate bar or packet of cookies presented itself.

Looking back, my brother and I became pretty feral in many respects, dealing with bullies at school who would pick on us because of our many times repaired hand-me-down clothing as well as the bullies on the housing estates who would want to take from us what little we had for no other reason than the fact that they wanted it. By necessity we learned to take care of ourselves pretty well and, though we always did our best to keep ourselves to ourselves, found that we had to fight almost every day whether at school, at home or on the journey in between.

As our childhood years passed us by nothing about our lives really changed. There were still drunken arguments and beatings at home, still fights with ‘outsiders’ whenever we went out and, of course, still no money.

In the UK around November 5th each year we’d have Guy Fawkes night in celebration of Fawkes’ failed plot to blow up parliament in 1605. It was customary in the 1970’s and 80’s for children up and down the UK to make effigies of Guy Fawkes from old clothing and masks and stand on street corners shouting “Penny for the Guy” at the passers buy who would, if you were lucky, slip you a few pennies, ostensibly to buy fireworks which you’d set off on the evening of the 5th around a massive bonfire on which you’d burn the Guy you’d made.

Kaz and I would often have no spare clothes to make our Guy with so I’d end up sitting my brother in a baby buggy or a box, stuff his clothing with newspaper to make him look more like a ‘real’ Guy and put the finishing touches by making a mask from a paper plate and drawing on a face. Pull on a hood so you couldn’t see hair or skin and, Bob’s your uncle, we had a Guy.

On a good day we’d make several pounds from passers by, which was a lot in those days and, after buying ourselves a few bars of chocolate and the odd comic book, we’d hurry off home and give most of the rest to my mum so that she could either buy dinner or feed the electricity meter. She never asked, we just did it. Come to think of it, I don’t think we ever bought fireworks with that money.

The fighting continued. Both at home and outside.

As kids, we couldn’t do much about what went on at home. We were too young, too small and too scared to stand up to my dad, but one evening in 1982 we found a way to deal with the bullies.

After watching Sylvester Stallone in Rocky 3 and still with ‘The Eye Of The Tiger’ ringing in our ears, Kaz and I joined our local boxing club and quickly found that we were not only good, we were very good.

A combination of streetwise self confidence, natural aggression and, in reflection, a burning anger at what life had dealt us up to that point made us both extremely dangerous adversaries to face in the ring and we revelled in the attention and praise lavished upon us by the tough east-end coaches who trained us.

Within a very short period of time the discipline and toughness of the boxing training began to pay off. We were both asked to box in competition first representing the club locally, then the borough, then the region and then for all of London. We kept on winning and found our faces plastered over the sports section of the local newspapers almost every other week.

We were celebrities. We thought we’d made it.

We were wrong.

Seems that, whilst your average bully is far less likely to pick on a champion boxer, gangs of kids with nothing better to do but stand on street corners spraying graffiti and smashing streetlamps are less put off from doing so. I found this out when I was 13 or so and was beaten up by a group 16 year olds who felt I was too big for my boots because I’d been in the papers again that week. They decided they’d teach the boxer how to fight for real. And their lesson was a thorough one which included detaching the cartilage from my nasal bone, among other things.



After that, my life became a blur of tit for tat battles with my new ‘teachers’. They’d pick a fight and usually win, I’d wait until one of them was alone and get him back and he’d tell his friends and they’d get me all over again. It wasn’t great but at least it was predictable. You never had to worry about whether or not trouble would find you on any given day. It would. Always. You just never knew when.

My grandfather had served in World War 2 with the paratroopers and the S.A.S, or so he’d told me when I was small. I used to love his war stories and tales of secret missions behind enemy lines and was totally army barmy, promising myself that as soon as I was old enough I’d join up, travel the world and live a life totally different to the one I’d been shown up to that point.

I was only 13 so I still had a few years to go but I joined the army cadets to get a feel for what the army might be like. A youth club with combat clothing and rifles arranged around a military rank system, the army cadets became my home away from home for the next few years with almost every weekend given over to assault courses, shooting weekends, bivouacs, survival exercises and adventure training.

I became supremely fit, running 20-30 miles a week with a 35lb pack and gaining my proficiency in numerous weapons as well as gaining the rank of sergeant that required me to learn how to lecture and train the younger cadets in everything from navigation to weapon handling to survival training. I was just 15 by this point and was pretty much a shining star in this closed little community of the cadets.

At home though, it was like we were caught in a time warp.

We still lived in a dump, my dad still drank and hit my mum (though he hit us kids less now as we were getting bigger) and kids in gangs still wanted a piece of me whenever they clapped eyes on me.

I couldn’t wait to get into the army.

At 15 I applied to join the ‘Junior Leaders’. These are kids who have leadership potential who are to be trained for rapid rank acceleration once they reach age 18. They couldn’t, at that time, go to war until they were 17 ½ but they were trained exactly like their adult counterparts… though paid much less.

I emotionally blackmailed my mum into letting me join and attended the selection weekend for the elite Parachute Regiment and passed with flying colours. I was still too young to join but they told me that a place would await me as soon as I graduated secondary school at 16 ½ . Life was definitely looking rosy.

Or so I thought.

Then, one night not too long before my sixteenth birthday I woke up to the sounds of my mum screaming. My dad was drunk again and showing my mum how much of a man he was. I’d grown up with this all my life and I was kind of used to it and ignored it for a while until suddenly there was a different quality to my mum’s screams. A different pitch. One that told me she was in serious trouble.

I jumped out of bed, ran into the living room and headed straight for my dad and punched him as hard as I could in the ribs.

Only I didn’t punch him.

As I pulled my hand away I saw that, without understanding how it got there, there was a 7 inch hunting knife that I used on my cadet weekends. It was covered in blood, as was my hand and the side of my dad’s shirt from where blood was escaping from the puncture wound to his heart that I’d given him.

I’d stabbed my dad through the heart and didn’t even know I’d done it until after the fact.

It was only the first aid I’d been trained in as an army cadet that saved his life and, ultimately, saved me from going to jail for murder. That, and the fact that when he came around eventually he refused to press charges against me.

Soon after I quit school. It was six months until my final exams and I’d done well enough to ensure that I’d pass with very good grades but I couldn’t face another day there and instead went off to live in Wales where I could train in the mountains and get fit for the army.

So there I was. Sixteen years of age. Homeless. Broke. Unemployed. Unqualified. Attempted murderer….

But don’t feel sorry for me.

I certainly don’t.

There’s nothing to feel sorry for.

Fast-Forward 21 years.

Fast-forward Airborne forces, Royal Marines and and back to civilian life again.

Fast-forward getting married and having 4 children.

Fast-forward numerous dead-end jobs from bodyguard to builder, sewer worker to street sweeper and everything in between.

Fast-forward setting up my own personal training business, becoming an industry leader and a published author.

Fast-forward to today where I now run 5 separate businesses, earn 6-figures a year, appear on TV, radio and magazines and spend several months of the year travelling to far flung parts of the world with my family.

How life changes!

Truth, Joy and Love

Dax

The MAGIC Hundred is currently available at www.themagichundred.com

Dax Moy's Favorite Goal Achievement and Success Book

It's been a while...

I’ve not written in about 3 weeks as I’ve been enjoying my family summer vacation in my favourite placed on earth; Thailand.

I’ve been mostly chilling out with my family, exploring the island on our motorcycles, swimming off of pristine powder-white beaches and soaking up some of the 36 degrees sunshine.

Lovely!!!

I’ve also been doing a fair bit of reading whilst I’m here, having read and re-read more than 9 books in the last 2 weeks and filling my mind with new and inspiring ideas for when I get home.

One of the books I’ve just finished reading is a book I’ve read more than 10 times in the last 3 years and one which I believe to be the most important book I’ve EVER read.

No, it’s not think and grow rich

No, it’s not the science of getting rich

No, it’s not the secret

In fact, it’s nothing to do with wealth, accumulation or law of attraction at all.
And yet…

From what I’ve learned in this book I’ve been able to created and recreate an amazing life and lifestyle for my family.
The book?

Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walshe



Now, hold on!

Before you dismiss the book on religious grounds, on the teachings of your pastor or rabbi or other religious leader or because you’re ‘Not into all that god stuff; let me put you at your ease.

Conversations with god is not a religious doctrine. It doesn’t support one religion or another. ( its fact, many, have claimed it to be blasphemers because it speaks of god outside religious contexts) .

The book is a MUST read if for no other reason than this;

It tells you how to get what you want.

EVERYTHING you want.

I’m not kidding!

Rather than merely stating that ‘thoughts become things’, ( a philosophy I don’t agree with ) it explains how thoughts can, will and DO become things when a certain ‘formula’ is followed.

It’s not a ‘secret’ formula.

It’s not a ‘hidden’ formula.

It’s not some long, lost, forgotten formula.

It’s a formula so obvious and so much in plain sight that it’s amazing that more people don’t use it.

Want to know it?

Here it is!

Thought-word-action equals results

This tells us that thoughts become things ONLY if we speak or write the thoughts and then take action on them.

Think a thought all you want to but if you fail to write it down or tell others about it and you fail to act upon it, then the power that enables that thought to become a thing simply ‘dries up’, it goes away and the result never manifests.

That’s why most people ‘fail’ (they never truly fail, they just get a result they didn't necessarily want), because they had a thought and failed to talk about it or write about it often enough and failed to take even the tiniest of actions to manifest it.

Conversely, that’s why the magic hundred is so powerful and why people achieve so much.

They have their thought about what they want to be, do and have. They write them down and speak about them daily and they take action on them every day.

Hardly rocket science is it?

But then, I guess, when you’re one of the very few people actually bringing their goals to life, it is really a kinda magic.

Truth, joy and love

Dax Moy
www.themagichundred.com

P.S- whenever I recommend conversations with god to anyone, I’m always asked about my religious backgrounds.

I have none

I have no religious connection or belief though I respect them all.

I’ve read the Bible, the Koran, sections of the Talmud, the Torah, the Bhagavad-gita, I’ve read on Buddhism, Sikhism, Sufism, Taoism and paganism as well as Gnostic and Atheism.

I have found more similarity than differences between them all and have chosen to enjoy the differences as subtle ‘flavors’ within the whole so to speak.

I believe in God, certainly, but personally don’t find the need to become attached to one name in particular, nor one book, nor one ‘messenger’.

So now you know ☺

Start Today For Success

"Much may be done in those little shreds and patches of time whichevery day produces, and which most men throw away. " - Charles Caleb Colton


How true that quote is huh?

Most of us go through life 'putting off until tomorrow' again and again and again thinking that they have all the time in the world to get what they want from life, yet in doing so they're literally throwing away great chunks of their life.

Chunks that they'll never get back.

It's been said that a great life is merely a series of great years,
that a great year is but a series of great month, that a greatmonth is but a series of great weeks and that, ultimately a great week is nothing more than 7 great days strung together.

Achieving a great life sounds simple when you think of it that way
doesn't it?

Yet it's so easy to fall into the habit of living this principle in reverse, stringing together bad days into bad weeks, into badmonths into bad years and then looking back with regret on a lifetime that feels like it's been wasted.

Don't make this mistake.

It's not too late to really make a difference and achieve something amazing with the 175 daysthat are left of 2008.

175 days could see you a lot fitter than you are now, a lot healthier, a lot wealthier.

It could see you become an author, starting your own business,travelling to far flung places or any other number of wonderful things.

It COULD!

But you've got to start.

Don't waste another day.

Your life depends upon it!

Truth, joy and love

Dax Moy
www.themagichundred.com

P.S - If you really want to suck as much life out of the next 100 days as possible then grab yourself a copy of the magic hundred over at www.themagichundred.com

There simply isn't a faster way to go from goal SETTING to goal GETTING!

Are You Committing This Success Sin?

"It must be borne in mind that the great tragedy in life is not in
failing to reach all of your goals--it is in having no goals for
which you are reaching.

It is not a calamity if somehow you die with dreams unfulfilled but
it is a calamity not to dream.

It is not a disgrace if you fail to reach the stars, but it is a
disgrace if you have no stars for which you are reaching.

It is not a disaster if you fail to achieve your highest ideals,
but it is a disaster if you have no high ideals for which you are
striving. Not failure, but lower aim is sin."

Benjamin Elijah Mays – Former President Of Morehouse college

This is an amazing quote, don't you agree?

The first time I came across this quote I was quite literally
stunned by power of these simple truths and the recognition that
whenever we choose to settle for less of ANYTHING in this life we
diminish not only the results we achieve but the person we become.

I hope by reading this powerful message you've been reminded to
stretch, reach, grasp and take action on achieving everything you
want to be, do and have in this life.

I know I sure have!

Truth, Joy and Love

Dax Moy
www.themagichundred.com

P.S - If you're serious about committing to the kind of action that will ensure the power, passion and promise that makes for a life worth remembering then visit www.themagichundred.com today!